Dear Abby: Son’s a third wheel on couple’s trip
Dear Abby My husband and I married years ago We have a blended family of eight kids but it s just us now Our kids are scattered across the country Over all these years we have never taken a vacation just for us We have invariably visited family Now after scrimping saving and planning our dream trip is completely happening We are visiting Disneyland Predicament is our youngest just relocated to L A I bought tickets scheduled tours and reserved meals for just the two of us But my husband has included our son in everything now all park visits dinners etc Don t get me wrong I love my kids but this was supposed to be our time I agreed to one dinner with our son but other than that we are on our own My husband wants to include him in everything because he lives close by Now my husband says he doesn t want to go at all He insists that our son partake in everything we do but I want this trip to be about us We deserve this How do I convince him that we need this trip Disappointed in Ohio Dear Disappointed You shouldn t have to convince your husband to follow through on your dream vacation He should have consulted you before inviting your son and telling him he will be included in everything You wrote that you scrimped and saved for years to afford this vacation How does he intend to pay for all those extra expenses for a third person If your husband doesn t want an experience just for the two of you allow me to suggest it may be time to schedule something just for yourself You have earned it Dear Abby I was engaged to my husband for three years before we got married A little more than a year ago he was informed that he had two years to live Six months later we celebrated our th wedding anniversary and days after that he passed away I have met a man who is two years younger than I am who makes me laugh again I feel like a schoolgirl when I m around him He wants to be a roommate live with me and sleep upstairs I sleep downstairs but I don t know if I should let him or not Advice Feeling a Bit Scared in Indiana Dear Feeling Would this man be paying you rent and buying food or would you be picking up the tab If all he wants is to be your platonic roommate but you are physically attracted to him I recommend against proceeding with the arrangement You would find it increasingly painful and frustrating and when you completely had had enough pain and frustration you might have to hire an attorney to help you get him out What seems attractive now could be a huge pain in the posterior and I guarantee it wouldn t leave you guffawing Keep things as they are until the relationship becomes more defined Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA
