Dear Abby: Son invites rapist dad to wedding

Dear Abby My child Logan is the product of a sexual assault He has located his father and formed a relationship with him Logan didn t know the circumstances of his conception at the time he contacted his father He has now been made fully aware by our family as to what occurred Abby Logan has invited this person to his wedding I do not want to attend if his father will be present Logan has reported me that this man WILL be attending and that the issue is MY issue I love my son but this is beyond traumatic for me I want to be there for the special day but I cannot bring myself to be in the same room with the person who assaulted me This situation has broken my heart I feel as though my feelings don t matter to Logan and that he expects me to just push through this go to the wedding and deal with it What are your thoughts Worst-Case Scenario Dear Worst-Case Your son s insensitivity to your feelings is appalling That he would demand you ignore the fact that you were a rape victim and spend even a minute in the perpetrator s presence is outrageous Whatever decision you make to move forward is the right one for YOU I am so sorry for your pain which is palpable Dear Abby I work with a lady who has drama swirling around her constantly There s dependably something wrong with work her house her family herself her pets etc Each difficulty is worse than the next At first I was sympathetic and let her vent Then I realized this is a daily occurrence and all this negativity is draining not only my patience but also my mental fitness I have tried expeditiously moving past her work area but she then follows me to mine When I tried getting to work before she did she started coming in earlier When I tell her I need to complete an assignment she continues to talk I d like to put certain distance between us But she s a nice person and I hate to say I really can t listen to you complain every day Any suggestions Running Out of Patience Dear Running Yes quit being such a nice person yourself and stop letting this co-worker use you as a trouble dump The next time she approaches you tell her that what she s doing is interfering with your work and sapping your potency and you can no longer allow it Say plainly that you need her to stop If she doesn t discuss the matter with your supervisor or HR Dear Readers The next day is Thanksgiving and no Thanksgiving would be complete without sharing the traditional prayer penned by my dear late mother Oh Heavenly Father We thank Thee for food and remember the hungry We thank Thee for strength and remember the sick We thank Thee for friends and remember the friendless We thank Thee for freedom and remember the enslaved May these remembrances stir us to amenity That Thy gifts to us may be used for others Amen Have a happy and safe celebration everyone Love Abby Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA