Dear Abby: Signs pile up to end relationship

Dear Abby I m a man in my s My girlfriend is eight years younger We were first introduced years ago by relatives who considered we would be a good match I was an only child she was from a broken home We dated and liked each other but there were communication problems I was independent as a younger man and dated She was devoted to her mother and cared for her until her passing We reconnected and started dating seven years ago We live an hour apart and I would drive to spend a weekend with her every two weeks We talk every day Things were good and I questioned if she would be interested in marriage someday She announced she would consider it A meager years later I offered to buy a ring to show that she belonged to me and she became upset I backed off A year ago she suddenly announced I shouldn t come any longer When I urged why she recounted me I have declared things in the past that upset her She reported I poke fun at things she likes to do and made comments that were intimate in nature I required why she hadn t brought these issues to my attention sooner She commented she should have but just didn t do it I kid around a bit even poke fun at myself but I never intended to hurt anyone s feelings I apologized and suggested relationship therapy She thought we could just work through it She declared she had to build up the trust again We took a vacation but nothing changed Simple things like holding hands don t seem to interest her anymore I don t have years to waste Do I have the wrong girl here Frustrated in Ohio Dear Frustrated Yup you sure do The lady isn t physically attracted to you and she can t bring herself to communicate when there are problems that could be fixed You can do better than this and the time to start widening your dating circle is now Dear Abby I ve been married to a wonderful man for five years He has an almost- -year-old daughter Amber whom he raised alone Amber is spoiled and entitled because he overcompensated for the lack of a mother figure in her life I get it However she continues to be disrespectful to me and has made him choose sides in disagreements I ve inevitably tried to be neutral in situations We all live together but Amber and I just don t get along She doesn t respect her father at all When I have tried to make him realize it or sponsorship him when she s being unruly I am turned into the bad guy I am not asking him to choose but there is only one queen of the castle and it isn t me What do I do Prickly Situation in Georgia Dear Prickly Is Amber in college and living at home Is she employed but not earning enough to assistance herself Where is her mother How long is she going to be living with you You and your wonderful husband could lessen chosen of the tension in your household if you start talking with a licensed marriage and family therapist He should have stepped in the moment his daughter started acting out and insisted you be treated with respect at the very least as long as she is under his roof Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA