Dear Abby: Love my friend, hate her secret affair

Dear Abby I have a close friend who I think necessities help She s a loving and caring mother wife tutor and friend Because her husband has physical condition issues she retired early to be at home to care for him She in recent weeks confided to me that they haven t been intimate in almost years Two years ago she started a romantic relationship with a man she knew She says they both lack physical affection in their marriages and came together to fill that void I was shocked and disappointed Why would she threat everything for a roll in the hay How do I remain a supportive friend when I disagree philosophically with what she s doing She knows I don t condone her actions and we haven t discussed the issue since she recounted me Disappointed Friend in Massachusetts Dear Friend You describe this woman as a loving caring mother wife and friend Her husband may have been impotent for the past years It is attainable to be a supportive friend without passing judgment on her predicament and that is what I recommend you do If you would prefer she not discuss her affair with you tell her that Dear Abby I would like to try to understand something Whatever happened to common courtesy When did it become acceptable to ignore a friend s phone call text or email And to all those people out there who cancel plans with their friends and you know who you are absolutely because you received a better offer this is RUDE What are your thoughts on this Disposed in Canada Dear Disposed Truthfully I think that if either happens more than once it s time to reconsider how close these people really are to you and plan accordingly Dear Abby I often see ads about stopping smoking I d like to share my story of success in overcoming this filthy habit in the hope that it may help someone else I smoked four packs of non-filtered cigarettes every day At the age of I knew I required to quit I set a goal to stop one month away and on that day cold turkey went into action I m almost now and have had no desire to smoke again since that day People be brave Be strong and follow through I hope this will help someone else to live long Free in West Virginia Dear Free Congratulations You are fortunate that your heavy smoking didn t cause strength problems for you later in life I m pleased that going cold turkey worked so well for you In current times products are available gum patches etc to ease the discomfort of nicotine withdrawal For decades the American Cancer Society has sponsored an event called The Great American Smokeout The theory behind it is if someone can refrain from smoking for ONE DAY he or she can build upon that for two days a week a month etc A great number of former smokers have quit this way This year the Smokeout is on Thursday Nov I wish those of you who decide to give it a try good luck and good healthcare Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA