Dear Abby: Husband talks about ex in his sleep

Dear Abby My husband of years had an old girlfriend he was on and off with for years She passed away while he was in prison We got married three months after he was distributed The thing is when he sleeps almost every night he says her name and how much he loves her He says because he s doing it in his sleep he doesn t know he s doing it It seems to upset him that I m upset He doesn t want to hurt me What can I do to deal with it or get him to stop doing it Dreads the Bed in Colorado Dear Dreads Your husband was on and off with his late girlfriend much longer than he has been married to you Old habits die hard If he wakes you when this happens don t hesitate to gently wake him If he asks why you did it explain that he was talking in his sleep Do not be specific about what Then try to remember that she is history and you are right next to him Dear Abby I m a senior widow who has been dating an older man for a year now He s caring and thoughtful and has various good qualities but one thing he does is creating difficulty for me He constantly stares at other women I ve talked with him about a five-second rule but he doesn t hear me He narrated me he was raised by his mother and grandmother and that s why he s attracted to women in general He says it doesn t mean anything I have never been with a man who constantly looks at other women He also prefers to have women friends rather than men friends I don t want to be jealous but sometimes it s hard keeping those feelings down I m trying to decide whether I should end this relationship or stay in it and try to overcome my feelings of jealousy Red Flag in California Dear Red Flag If this person makes you feel less good about yourself recognize it IS a red flag His behavior is insensitive and rude Because you have inquired him to stop staring at women when he is with you and he makes excuses to continue my advice is to find a companion who is more considerate of your feelings Dear Abby My wife of years and I have been fighting over politics and cultural changes in our country The arguments have cooled down by mutual agreement but so has our sexual desire for each other Our marriage consultant has consistently taken my wife s position I am left on my own I have no backing from the rest of my family three lovely daughters but I still love and respect my wife She explained me that I must switch my politics to hers or she will leave me What do I do Threatened in Wisconsin Dear Threatened Tell your wife and her marriage consultant that as your political arguments have dwindled so has your sex life It may be time to seek professional counseling with someone else on your own Your wife s ultimatum is unrealistic Unless the two of you can agree to disagree take her up on her offer Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA