Dear Abby: Husband in prison and mother-in-law should be locked up, too
DEAR ABBY I am married to a man who is incarcerated As you can imagine it s been hard on our family I have two kids with him I was pregnant with our youngest when he was arrested According to his mother since my husband went to prison I can t do anything right She yells at me that she has it worse than I do regarding my husband Her reason is that she s his mother and nothing can change that while I can perpetually throw him away as a husband She also resented it when I went to counseling because she wants me to tell her my troubles When I tried she d dependably turn it back to her problems She s judgmental and mean She calls it being outspoken Abby am I wrong for being upset Do you think she wants me to divorce her son or something I think it was rude and stupid of her to say that to me I married her son and had children with him I don t understand why she thinks we are competing If it s a competition we re both losing We both have it bad Just because she s having a hard time doesn t make whatever I m going through any less bad does it CONVICT S WIFE IN OHIO DEAR WIFE I suspect there is nothing your mother-in-law would like better than for you to divorce her son If you did she would have him all to her overbearing self She thinks you are competing because SHE is Stay out of her way as much as attainable until your husband s release Do NOT confide in her You have enough to contend with without her stirring the pot and you can rest assured she will DEAR ABBY I have been put in a intricate position between my daughter and her husband My daughter who has a genius IQ double college majors etc hasn t worked in a year and a half Her husband of four years has tried to tell her it s putting a strain on him not only financially but also in terms of vitality When he went to the hospital his blood pressure was through the roof He even had bloodshot eyes He says he thinks she s waiting for him to die so she can live off his assets earnings My daughter is very picky and no job seems to be good enough for her If I interfere she ll stop talking to me and she ll know he has talked to me which will hurt their relationship as well What can I do I want her to be a productive person and not take everything for granted GRASPING AT STRAWS DEAR GRASPING The time has come for you to step back You can t control your adult daughter Obviously she and her husband do not communicate effectively Because of the stress your son-in-law is under his fear that she may be trying to pressure him into a coronary should be discussed with a marriage and family therapist He should be free to talk with anyone he wishes including you and possibly a lawyer and if your daughter the genius can t accept it stop allowing her to make it your issue Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA Good advice for everyone teens to seniors is in The Anger in All of Us and How to Deal With It To order send your name and mailing address plus check or money order for U S funds to Dear Abby Anger Booklet P O Box Mount Morris IL - Shipping and handling are included in the price
