Dear Abby: College grad treated like a hostage at home

Dear Abby I m a -year-old college graduate who was lucky enough to land a job in my field of analysis The job is located in my hometown Because I couldn t afford my own apartment I moved back in with my parents The situation was supposed to be temporary but now that I can afford to move out my parents insist that I stay with them They forbid me to move until I pay off the entirety of my apprentice loans which will take years Then after I accomplish that they want me to start repaying them for the loans THEY took out for my schooling I can afford to rent an apartment and meet my monthly loan payments but my parents have threatened to repossess the car they bought me for graduation if I move out Unfortunately my job requires me to have transportation I love my parents and I want to help shoulder the burden I placed on them by choosing to attend college but I feel I m being manipulated Also my boyfriend whom I love very much of late required me to move in with him but I m afraid of how my parents would react if I noted yes Under the circumstances is it selfish to want to move into my own place What should I do Trying to Fly the Nest Dear Trying It appears your parents want to keep their little girl at home and under their thumbs At you are an adult and entitled to live independently or with your boyfriend if you wish What was the original agreement you had with your parents about the college loans they took out If it wasn t what they are saying now I would agree that their demands are manipulative A discussion with a financial expert might help you find a way to pay off your participant loans in an effective and timely manner As for your job if there is no masses transportation you will have to find a few other means of getting around unless the car is titled in your name Dear Abby I m a widowed man I have great neighbors but I m increasingly bothered by this circumstance The wife of one couple constantly criticizes her husband in front of me and other neighbors The issues are small but the jabs are constant Every couple has disagreements but in my experience not in such a citizens way In response the husband looks angry hurt or both but he says nothing I have been friends with this couple for years but I m starting to keep my distance because I don t want to listen to her petty attacks Should I say something privately to her To him If I do what should I say Or should I just mind my own business It seems wrong to ghost them without any explanation Tired of Hearing It in Texas Dear Tired Do not ghost the couple without an explanation Tell the husband you would like to socialize with him without his wife Just the guys He might welcome it If the wife asks you why you aren t around anymore which she maybe won t tell her the truth Dear Readers I wish you all a happy and healthy Fourth of July Please drive methodically and celebrate safely P S Wishing a Happy Heavenly Birthday to you Mom Love Abby Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA